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LGBTQ+ Life Coaching
Life Coaching for Gay Men and LGBTQ+ individuals:
supporting you without judgement
Let’s be honest: the odds haven’t always been in our favour.
Gay men and LGBTQ+ people are statistically
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more likely to face serious mental health challenges
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more likely to deal with addiction, shame, or cycles of self-sabotage
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more likely to experience family rejection, disapproval of others, and loneliness
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more likely to mask their identity in order to feel safe
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more likely to have difficulties building meaningful relationships
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more likely to spend a lifetime trying to prove themselves—and still feel like it's not enough.
And if you’re here now, looking for support, that does't mean you’re broken — it means you're ready.
Life can get better — with the right support
Maybe...
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life looks fine from the outside — but inside, you feel something's missing
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you're tired of living up to everyone else's expectations
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you only feel free when you let go — then guilt and shame drags you back down
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you're stuck in habits that are wearing you out
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your inner critic sounds like whole committee picking at everything you do
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your emotions are either too much or never enough
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you've been burned one too many times before
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everyone else seems to be thriving while you’re still failing inside
You don’t have to keep going through this on your own.
Coaching offers a non-judgmental, supportive space to make sense of what’s happening — where you can start shifting things, one step at a time.
How LGBTQ + coaching can help
You don’t need a crisis or a diagnosis to start. Just a willingness to see your life differently.
Coaching helps you:
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untangle what’s really holding you back
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recognize patterns that no longer serve you
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move beyond people-pleasing and perfectionism
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set boundaries that work for you
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build deeper, more authentic connections — with others and with yourself
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clarify personal and professional goals and move towards them with more confidence
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Cut through the noise from social media and expectations to reconnect with the real you
You don't need to fix everything overnight. You just need to begin.
Take the first step and book a free chat with me — I'm here when you're ready!
Why Choose
Different Keys?
Tailored to your needs - right from the start
✅ FREE to start — no pressure, no hard sell!
You can book a free 30-minute consultation to ask questions, talk through where you’re at, and see if coaching feels like a good fit.
✅ Try a full session for £25
A one-hour taster session lets you see what coaching’s like before you commit. If you’re not sure whether this kind of support will help, this is the best way to find out.
✅ Affordable coaching options
I offer a limited number of lower-cost sessions for those on reduced incomes. Everyone deserves a chance to get the right type of support.
✅ Flexible formats to suit you
A weekly one-hour session is the standard, but we can adjust to fit your energy, schedule or budget. Shorter check-ins, longer deep dives — it’s all on the table.
✅ Exclusive coaching tools
You’ll get access to Be You, But Better — our original and growing collection of simple, powerful self-development exercises that actually work.
Transformational Coaching: Client Success
"Turning 50 as a gay man has been harder than I imagined. I never expected to be single at this stage or moving back home - I felt overwhelmed and doubted my ability to recover.
Paul has been a great coach — offering both empathy and keeping me focussed on practical strategies. He’s helped me reconnect with a sense of pride in myself as a gay man, and to look ahead with strength instead of getting stuck in the past.”
Luke, June 2025
Who I am (and why it matters)
I am a gay man who has lived in and around London for almost three decades. Over the years, I have experienced the many complexities of LGBTQ+ life — from the joyful and liberating to the painful and isolating.
I know what it means to feel pressure to be someone you’re not. I have seen the personal cost of visibility, as well as the quiet damage caused by staying hidden. Like many in my generation, I have experienced grief and loss — and witnessed the impact of that loss within our communities. These experiences, combined with a long-standing commitment to personal development and a realisation that things get better with the right support, are what led me to become a coach.
My practice is informed by a broader engagement with the LGBTQ+ community. I have had the privilege of listening to and learning from individuals whose lives differ greatly from my own — including lesbian, bisexual, trans, and non-binary people (and yes, straight people too!) — and those conversations continue to shape my approach.
Different Keys is an inclusive, affirming space where meaningful change becomes possible — on your terms, and in line with your values.
I’m here to listen with care, to understand your story on your terms, and to help you explore new ways forward — finding a better you and creating a better future.
Coaching Fees
✅ Try things out
One hour Taster Session – £25
A full coaching session at a reduced rate
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Find out about the coaching process
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Explore an issue from your life
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Learn how to get the most out of your coaching sessions
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Leave with clear actions and next steps
🏆Coaching for Individuals
Standard Rate – £100 per one-hour session
Coaching provides a confidential, structured space to work on the issues that matter most—whether that’s emotional overwhelm, practical organisation, relationships, motivation, or self-confidence.
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Sessions are usually booked in packages of 6
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Flexible scheduling available
🔑Coaching for Organisations / Access to Work
Employer-Funded / Access to Work Rate – £120 per one-hour session
For coaching paid for by an employer or through Access to Work, this rate reflects the additional admin involved (e.g. reports, planning, invoicing). I’m happy to supply quotes, progress updates, or reports where needed.
Affordable Rate Coaching
Affordable Rate — £25 per one-hour session (limited availability)
I offer a small number of reduced-rate places for individuals on low incomes, available as a 6-session package.
These sessions are the same as my standard coaching and are offered as part of my commitment to make the right kind of support available to those who need it, not just those who can afford it.
This rate is limited to 20% of my client work to ensure fairness and sustainability.
👉 If you’re on a low income and would benefit from coaching, please contact me to see whether a space is currently available.
International Clients & Currency Options
I currently work with clients across the UK, USA, and New Zealand. Clients from other countries always welcome!
Payment can be accepted in GBP, EUR, USD, and other major currencies.
Not sure if coaching is right for you?
Try a taster session— risk free!
I know that taking the first step can feel daunting. That’s why I offer a low-cost, no-pressure way to experience what coaching is really like — with nothing to lose.
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Book a one-hour Taster Session for £25
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Submit feedback after the session
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If you didn't find it helpful, I will refund you in full!
You deserve support that truly works for you.
Take the first step — get in touch today.
I’d love to hear your story.
LGBTQ+ Adults and ADHD Support Group
On the 4th Wednesday of every month, I co-host an ADHD UK online support group with Kathleen Helm for LGBTQ+ adults.
If you have ADHD and identify as LGBTQ+, it would be great to see you there!
You can see the upcoming sessions here . To get access to the event, please make a small donation to cover the charity's costs.
Kathleen and myself put together this guide to trusted organisations offering mental health services, advice and social activities for the LGBTQ+ communities across the UK.
